tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post5035003795791922609..comments2023-11-02T03:49:46.613-04:00Comments on The Muddled Sage: Considering the OptionsAstartehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-78121087508300258012010-04-23T15:39:13.195-04:002010-04-23T15:39:13.195-04:00Oh I haven't checked in over here in a while, ...Oh I haven't checked in over here in a while, what a lovely post to come back to! What an exciting idea!! I can't wait to read more about your process and journey!clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-32029060300865162022010-04-22T16:30:34.432-04:002010-04-22T16:30:34.432-04:00I swear I commented yesterday. Wow. Apparently not...I swear I commented yesterday. Wow. Apparently not.<br /><br />I can't wait to hear more about this! My brother-in-law adopted 3 older children-all siblings-several years ago. It's been a long hard road for them, but it's been so worth it as well (they had no other children).Kristin....https://www.blogger.com/profile/04577486067704642675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-32668602472874251272010-04-22T15:11:32.761-04:002010-04-22T15:11:32.761-04:00you giving heart never ceases to amaze me. really....you giving heart never ceases to amaze me. really. and that your kids are so open to it, that's wonderful. i can't wait to read about your journey.creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-47731116748091605892010-04-22T09:41:32.343-04:002010-04-22T09:41:32.343-04:00SQUEE! SO EXCITED FOR YOU! That is so awesome. ...SQUEE! SO EXCITED FOR YOU! That is so awesome. My husband is adopted, so we've always wanted to adopt, but cost is the biggest issue. We considered fostering- there are a few foster families on our block we spoke to and they all recommended we wait until we had older children, as some of the behavioral and attachment issues are harder on young kids that can't comprehend what is happening. I look forward to reading all about it! I will live vicariously through you and then maybe in a few years we can foster too!Not Your Aunt Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170586207423260492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-57696580661163589732010-04-22T00:01:29.353-04:002010-04-22T00:01:29.353-04:00Wow, that's super cool! I can't wait to he...Wow, that's super cool! I can't wait to hear more about this journey!Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-49997404044031337942010-04-20T18:37:36.056-04:002010-04-20T18:37:36.056-04:00Wow! That's really awesome! I can't wait...Wow! That's really awesome! I can't wait to be along for the ride... and good for you for looking for an older child. If we were to adopt, I'd want a baby (as does most everyone else), so I give credit to people who are open to big kids.<br /><br />Also, our good friends currently have a foster child (3 yr old boy) and it's been such a learning experience watching their process. <br /><br />I think you can get "foster status" on a temporary basis and do the classes later, if you really feel called to that particular little girl.Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-65752718706195476402010-04-20T14:34:15.707-04:002010-04-20T14:34:15.707-04:00how exciting!how exciting!d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-86983768745675787672010-04-20T13:55:56.207-04:002010-04-20T13:55:56.207-04:00Wow, what a huge and exciting step! We have frien...Wow, what a huge and exciting step! We have friends who have unfortunately been unable to conceive (five years now) that have been on the list for foster/adopt for about a year. They have lots of criteria though, so that's why the long wait. I'm pretty sure they want age three or under, so that's a little tougher. They have done some respite care though (taking already fostered kids for a weekend to give the main foster parents a break) and I know they've found it rewarding. Really tough though! Like, ten year old kids peeing all over the bathroom on purpose tough. And stealing things and screaming. But I know that there are also some kids they've really clicked with, so it certainly CAN work out. I think as long as you go into it with open eyes and no overly romanticized ideas of how it's going to be, it could be a wonderful, enriching thing for everyone.<br />Which is basically true of ALL parenting, biological or otherwise!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-25738619535818642602010-04-20T13:50:13.935-04:002010-04-20T13:50:13.935-04:00How exciting! I am a huge adoption advocate, so I...How exciting! I am a huge adoption advocate, so I am always happy to hear of someone who wants to adopt, esp. from foster care! That is really cool.<br /><br />This in between waiting time is a good time to start reading some books and getting ready- I recommend "parenting the hurt child". It is a great resource. <br /><br />My only word of caution is to be very careful about adopting out of birth order. Virtually all children in foster care have experienced some kind of abuse (hence the need for foster care). Even if the caseworkers tell you there isn't, they often don't know. An abused child can very easily repeat those behaviors on younger children, and I know you would never do anything to put your two in any kind of danger. There are other problems that can come of adoption kids older than the ones you already have as well. Not that you can't do it, just make sure to do your research and know what you are doing!<br /><br />You will learn more about it in the classes- there is a ton of information they give you there- it is a lot more involved than just normal parenting things. <br /><br />Good luck, and I can't wait to read about your journey!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-60090365191679132252010-04-20T13:01:34.922-04:002010-04-20T13:01:34.922-04:00Way to go! What a great big open heart your famil...Way to go! What a great big open heart your family has!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17380583632901267466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-65735375582202608572010-04-20T12:51:44.964-04:002010-04-20T12:51:44.964-04:00While I know FO SHO that I don't want anymore ...While I know FO SHO that I don't want anymore babies. Like EVER. (Dude, they CRY and NO SLEEP and BOTTLES and NAPS and OMG NO MORE BABIES) Mike and I have always planned on adopting. Perhaps later in life, when we're more stable, and have a bigger house. <br /><br />I've said it before and I'll say it again. Love is not genetic.AndreAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12102680027953333309noreply@blogger.com