tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post4576429125957106745..comments2023-11-02T03:49:46.613-04:00Comments on The Muddled Sage: Medical UpdateAstartehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-28830445534005355212009-07-21T11:30:54.165-04:002009-07-21T11:30:54.165-04:00Glad you are seeing benefits from the drugs, and t...Glad you are seeing benefits from the drugs, and that you have a good doctor. It helps me to know that other people are still dealing with childhood junk. Recovery is probably never a finished thing, but it sounds like you are well on your way.Bring A. Torchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582790471462415763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-15138029370145571422009-07-13T20:38:30.919-04:002009-07-13T20:38:30.919-04:00Wow. What a very honest post. It is horrible tha...Wow. What a very honest post. It is horrible that you have all of that to work through for the rest of your life, but you sound like such a great mom, I'm really amazed that you could come out of all that and be the opposite of all you experienced.<br /><br />I hope the meds help. It can be a hard thing to decide to take medication when you have been doing it on your own for so long.{sue}https://www.blogger.com/profile/09266404817244565359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-39298637847642800012009-07-11T20:39:40.649-04:002009-07-11T20:39:40.649-04:00And you are such a nice and funny and cool person ...And you are such a nice and funny and cool person after all of that, I almost forget it happened.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-45335917992877399362009-07-10T22:04:15.022-04:002009-07-10T22:04:15.022-04:00i have so much to say--i'm going to email you....i have so much to say--i'm going to email you. you never cease to amaze me w/ your openness and honesty and self-awareness.creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-26209129594285544302009-07-10T21:54:24.241-04:002009-07-10T21:54:24.241-04:00Wow. I'm so sorry for all the horrible things ...Wow. I'm so sorry for all the horrible things you have gone through. No one should have to go through all that. I think it can only be good for you to be as conscious of how it might affect you and your current life as you seem to be. (Did that make sense?)<br /><br />I know just what you mean about being afraid of passing things on to your kids. I feel the same way. It's so tough to be responsible for raising children and still feel like you're working on yourself at the same time. I'm on Lexapro and am so grateful that it has helped me, mainly by getting my social anxiety under control.Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-48574181428248552192009-07-10T20:17:51.492-04:002009-07-10T20:17:51.492-04:00Good for you! At least you are trying to take acti...Good for you! At least you are trying to take action, and do everything you can to be a better parent. The road to recovery is definitely harder than pretending nothing is wrong. I think it's very brave of you to try to make a difference in yourself and your children. I grew up poor, neglected, and sometimes physically abused. Trying to overcome those issues has been something I have struggled with my entire adult life. I understand what you mean about scarring your children. One of my deepest fears as a parent (and single mom) is that I will do something to emotionally harm one of my girls and twenty years from now, they will be sitting in a chair telling a therapist how badly I screwed them up. You can do it, I know you can.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-68801986559478731342009-07-09T17:17:26.821-04:002009-07-09T17:17:26.821-04:00Thanks,guys!
CBHM - I've thought of taking on...Thanks,guys!<br /><br />CBHM - I've thought of taking one of those classes, especially since Patrick started taking karate recently, but every time I do my limbs go completely numb. I have a feeling that I'd end up the same as you were the first few weeks. I love that you kicked butt in the end!<br /><br />DH - I don't think that I had PPD, especially, but it might have been hard to tell with everything else that was going on.Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-70839465944263866882009-07-09T16:22:00.639-04:002009-07-09T16:22:00.639-04:00I could have written this post myself. I've al...I could have written this post myself. I've always been against taking any meds, but your last sentence sat well with me. Maybe I need to do a little more thinking.Cherishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02224325261264892430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-68481550248593754222009-07-09T14:06:46.013-04:002009-07-09T14:06:46.013-04:00I'm glad the medication is at least not causin...I'm glad the medication is at least not causing you additional problems. I know some people spend years tweaking their meds, and I always think how incredibly frustrating that would have to be, along with the original problem of depression and/or anxiety to boot!<br />I think you definitely sound self-aware enough to be able to keep from letting any of those issues truly harm your kids. You've done great work already, it sounds like.<br />I wonder about postpartum depression. Did you ever experience any of that with either kid? I definitely had unusual anxiety levels with both of mine, and I'm not normally prone to that at all. So I'm always interested in hearing how others coped.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-40415925791668854282009-07-09T10:57:27.157-04:002009-07-09T10:57:27.157-04:00First of all, thanks so much for your insight into...First of all, thanks so much for your insight into OCD. I have a friend with the diagnosis and reading this was quite helpful to me in having me understand what she goes through and why.<br /><br />Secondly, the rape. Oh my. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had a less serious incident in my life that left me feeling like I would not have it in me to fight someone off. So I took a full contact self defense class for women. The first two weeks all I did was cry. Seriously. The big padded dude would (lamely) try to attack me and all the women would be cheering me on, reminding me of the techniques we had learned, and all I could do was sit down and cry. <br /><br />By the third week, I found it in myself to fight back, timidly at first. Then I started to beat the sh*t out of him. <br /><br />After ten years of talk therapy, nothing helped me as much as finding my own physical power.<br /><br />Thirdly, all your insight and self care is a wonderful example to your children. You cannot be perfect. You CAN (and DO) take care of yourself.clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-21005388080903689322009-07-09T08:11:44.718-04:002009-07-09T08:11:44.718-04:00I'm new here, but I'd just like to say how...I'm new here, but I'd just like to say how proud I am of you for doing what's best for you and your children and for being so self-aware.Nowheymamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02977594440010163078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-37707383742243988352009-07-09T01:40:39.104-04:002009-07-09T01:40:39.104-04:00I agree with Marie Green. You do have insight and...I agree with Marie Green. You do have insight and self-awareness, which is a benefit. It does take a lot of time in therapy to work out issues, so medications are a bridge until they can be resolved. Even then, some issues can form a sort of reflex, if you will, that even with therapy you may not react as strongly but nevertheless will always react and may need medication at some level or during stressful times. I think diet, exercise, environment, support all do play a role in these things- to which extent is very individualized. The things is that you are doing something about it. That makes a huge difference. Thank you for sharing.Not Your Aunt Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170586207423260492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4410765988179779659.post-86197361489182902122009-07-08T23:08:17.973-04:002009-07-08T23:08:17.973-04:00I think you have great insights and self-awareness...I think you have great insights and self-awareness, and those two things are definitely a benefit when it comes to not effecting your children.<br /><br />I too take something for depression/anxiety and I often feel as if I should also be doing some kind of talk therapy along with it. Also, I just borrowed "The Chemistry of Joy" from a friend, and it's a 'antimeds' book of sorts, but with good explinations of why, and also diet/lifestyle suggestions for helping regulate the brain.<br /><br />Not sure if it will change how I feel about meds, but I feel compelled to read it anyway...Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.com